Job, baby and adoption

I've been thinking whether to do a contract or permanent role when we head to Sydney.

Looking at my resumé, on average I change job every 2 years. It's bad!! I dread going for interviews as they would ask me the reasons I moved from company A, B, C, D, E and F (you can guess how long i've worked roughly). So I think doing a contract job will probably suits me. I think I like the possibility of changing work environment every 2 years. My only concern is that I would miss out on company's benefit such us maternity leave, bonus, etc.

Today, my hubby and I were in a cab back from my parents' house and we talked to the taxi driver. He's above 40 and just quit (or was sacked, not sure) from his previous job and took on the cabbie role while looking for a new job. He lamented that it's not easy to get a job if you are above >35yrs in Singapore. It hit me that maybe I need to get a 'retirement' job before I'm 35! A job that would secure me an employment until retirement age. It will not be easy to keep jumping jobs when one is getting older.

Talking about getting older, my hubby and I have been trying for a baby for a year now and we have not been successful so far. We have not done much though, just some visits to a gynae, check-ups (sperm check, 'tube' checks, ultra sound). Basically, both of us are not in the best condition to have babies. Gynae suggested a date (Day 12) for us to try for a baby after giving me an injection (to release egg or something) but it was not successful. As expected, we were disappointed when we found out and we did not go back to the gynae since. Instead, we were distracted with our migration project and me with my exams.

My hubby suggested that we try it later in Australia but somehow I feel guilty about not doing anything now or at least make an effort to seek 2nd opinion from other gynae. But I think I will concentrate with my exams for now until November and maybe embark on this baby project again in Australia when we both settle down (read: get a rented place and jobs).

So if by God's miracle I am pregnant anytime from now until then, we will have to decide whether to have the baby here or there. My hubby think we should deliver there as the baby will be a citizen straight away, while if having it in Singapore we will need to apply for PR for the baby again (maybe..). Well, I think it's a slim chance anyway....

Personally, I prefer to adopt than to bear my own child and I have been thinking about adoption since I was in primary school (when daydreaming about growing up)! But since then, I realized that most people don't have the same thinking and they prefer their own flesh and blood. So, I put the idea behind me as I think that most probably most husband will not prefer adoption. Frankly, I dread pregnancies and worse, the pain of childbirth. I made my hubby to promise me that I could choose C-section. I think I like watching a baby grow up, feeding him, teaching him, seeing how he will turn out to be, but he doesn't have to come out of my tummy or have our looks.

Oh well, I don't think adoption is easy anyway and I'm under 'social' pressure (family and friends) to try having a baby the natural way. A 3-mth (or 6-mth) maternity leave would be nice anyway (if I am in a permanent role, that is). I have 2 sets of parents who would help me housework and (if any) babies, so it's easier for me to juggle work and baby later.